It's hard to imagine right?

It's hard to imagine, It's hard to understand not wanting to go home.
To see that father so cold and distant, that brother that's never liked it but is too much like his father. The daughter that is selfish and vain. The mother who always yells and never see's him work, it's hard to imagine that he doesn't want to go home.

It's hard to imagine his relationships going well, when he comes from a cold and distant home, it's hard to imagine him loving another when he can't love his family.

But what's harder to imagine is WHAT IS REALLY happening; it's hard to imagine a father who works so hard who comes home so tired and he can't catch a break and they keep wanting more, why can't they see, why is it so hard to imagine what I'm doing for you?

It's hard to imagine a mother who does so much, it's hard to imagine how the frustration feels when all she does is thrown back in her face, when she does so much and tries so hard and all they do is keep asking me for more, what can't they help me?

It's hard to imagine a son seeing in himself the thing he hates to see in his father, it's hard to imagine how he strives to succeed and to provide, to be like the best in his father but only sees the worst in himself, to wonder why can't they see the good in me?

It's hard to imagine a daughter who feels so alone, it's hard to imagine a daughter so starved of love, who comes home and just wants to be told she's loved. To be told she's beautiful, why don't they love me?

It's just so hard to imagine a son so lost, so hurt and so broken who sees in his family so much pain and brokenness so much frustration and weariness, who in himself sees all their worst. Why can't I just be a good son and brother?

It's hard to imagine wanting to go home to a family tearing apart at the seems, it's hard to imagine a family so lost in themselves they can't find each other and make their way home.

It's hard to imagine right?


I wrote this the other day. In my opinion to make a family work, to make relationships work we need to be able to walk in the other persons shoes, whether literally or simply be able to imagine the position they are in.

"A house divided against itself cannot stand" - Abraham Lincoln

It's time for a lot of people to open their eyes and realise in their broken relationships and families, they aren't the only ones hurting, I'm not saying they are wrong, just that understanding and compromise is needed.